Solitude comes in different shapes and sizes. I use the word to mean many things. It is not always about being single; it is not always about living alone. The solitude / privacy / space/ time I am talking about is the minute to yourself or the hour to yourself, the day to yourself or a room of your own . Yes, I am a suburban hermit, but I do not live in untethered isolation. I have a mother, I have friends, I have my little dog ,Lausche. I am a grateful neighbor whose first act of home ownership was to install a privacy fence.